Phone Etiquette

why do people talk loudly on the phone with their friends about bullshit, but then want to whisper when they are talking to their significant other (provided its not an argument)? stop that shit! its either all or nothing dammit. if i got to hear the dumb gossip about who said or did what to or about who then i should be granted the chance to hear about last night's romantic rendevou "wich ya boo." it's only fair.